Evolution of our children’s questions

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Moments for Mom
By Elisabeth K. Corcoran
Author of He Is Just That Into You

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Do you want to do something together?
Do you want to go to the park with me?
Do you want to play a game?
Do you want to watch a movie?

Picture a tenacious toddler pulling on your leg. You’re so tired. You have a hundred things to do. You haven’t gotten out of your pajamas…since Monday. You haven’t gotten around to eating breakfast yet. Do you want to play a game?, tug tug.

You think the questions will never end. You hope they do, despite being told to enjoy every single moment of mommyhood. But exhaustion often wins out and all you want to do is sit down and maybe close your eyes for five minutes.

Flash ahead to the school-age years.

Can I sign up for soccer?
Can you take me to the store to get posterboard for school?
Can Todd come over to play video games?
Can I spend the night at Heather’s house?

Middle-school and high school comes along.

Can I have the car keys?
Can I go to the dance?
Can I go to camp this summer?
Will you drop me and Avery off at the mall?

The questions continue but morph right along with your kids as they transition into going out into the world.

But just when I thought I was losing them both forever…that my job is to one hundred percent let them go and cross my fingers that they come back around again, more questions come…

Do you want to do something together?
Do you want to go to the park with me?
Do you want to play a game?
Do you want to watch a movie?

(Sound familiar?) All of these from my teenage kids to me within the past couple weeks. I tell you this not to frighten you that the persisting queries will never end but to encourage you that the persisting queries will never end. Our kids will always need us. Our kids will always want us. Even if they act like they don’t.

 Elisabeth K. Corcoran, 2012